Parenting Californian Teenagers
Children: Mirror of our own behavior
Generally, observing the development and growth an infant child, even as a layman, one can very well know that the infant has the inborn power to observe the great wide beautiful and wonderful world, around him. It is this observation power and innate desire to imitate what interests him makes the child to act and behave like any other human beings. Children need not be taught to speak with conscious efforts. A child learns it’s naturally by observation. Without understanding the rules and grammar child first learns to speak. A child in short mirrors our behavior. The external stimuli are the reference point for the child to learn.
Family institution
The Family in which the child is born is the first and foremost social institution to which the child naturally gets exposed to. It can naturally get the feel of relation amongst the members of the family which includes the Parents and siblings. If it is a broken family it affects the growth of the child adversely. If the same is united and the atmosphere is full of love and care for each other the child grows in normal situation and more happy and healthy to cope with his future challenges; feels more secure. Can fall back for moral support when it is required the most. The happenings in his life in very initial stages i.e. in the infantile years mould the behavior of the child in the later years more or less with permanent effect. The child is molded to be nervous, frightened, lacking in confidence or at times deviant if his grows in adverse family background. Of course the behavioral sciences are imperfect and results depend upon innumerable variable factors depending upon the unique facts and circumstances for each and every human being.
Family Norms and Family Values
It is the infant child who later on grows into a teenager to become an adult. `Teenagers’, is hiatus between the childhood and adulthood. It is the most fragile, confusing and sensitive stage of child eventually growing into an adult. The normal impression of the good and bad which he gets from the socializing factors like the family, society, school is challenged due to peer pressure, adventurism, and immaturity, rebellion against the establishment or even merely getting exposed to antisocial elements. These are the problems of the parenting teenagers in general. It is here that the formative years of a child may comes to his help to deal with such pressures or may succumb to such pressures due lack of proper norms and values inculcated in the child. All mostly depends upon how and in what social condition the child was exposed to.
Problems in Parenting Teenagers:
It’s the race with the time. Parents cannot run around their children to find out how they doing in life. In what company they move around, Whether they smoke, drink or are exposed to drug abuse and what about their exposure to sex. However, there are ways and means to handle these things. A few things which one can do in parenting teenagers are:
- Remember, Teenagers are not born teenagers. One has to give time to children throughout their childhood, if one does plans to have children. The type of life you give to the child in his formative years would only help the child to face the teenage pressures.
- If one finds the child is behaving deviently then it necessary that counseling is done with help of professional advice for parents.
- One can act as a friend philosopher and guide to the children without really being overbearing upon them. Also Remember, one cannot become possessive about children. Children should feel free to come and discuss their problems with their parents without inhibitions of being criticized or punished. For this the parent should be accessible. This last but not the least things which the parents can do the avoid trouble and help their children grow into healthy adults.
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